Healing Love Practices cultivate loving and healing gestures towards oneself and others. Cultivating sexual energy is a powerful, sacred act, which can cause suffering or bring healing and new life, depending on how it is morally channelled. Like working with fire, it requires respect and awe for its source of warmth and life. Let fiery passion fuel the warmth of love and compassion.

The goal of our practice is to conserve, recycle and transform as much sexual energy as possible. Sexual energy is the essence of the best energy of your body. Nature gives us a surplus of sexual energy and only a small fraction of sperm or eggs are used. This surplus can be used to for our evolution. By reversing the down and out loss of sexual energy and channelling this precious life force in, up and around us, we can raise our level of well-being. Men learn to prevent exhaustion and depletion from ejaculation. The techniques for women decrease the loss of energy during menstruation by shortening the length of the period and decreasing discomfort. When a man, who is more positively charged, exchanges energy with a woman, who is more negatively charged, it is like a current running through opposite electric poles, which generates power. More energy will be available to develop physical, psychic, creative and spiritual potential. It is the energy we use to think, feel and act.

The major techniques for cultivating sexual energy are mindfulness, breathing, and articulate muscle control. High quality attention is an expression of love. The quality of one’s meditation and lifestyle is reflected in the quality of lovemaking. If one is mindful of subtle, sensitive, balanced, playful and blissful states of mind and body this will come out in I how one makes love. If one is at peace with oneself, one
is open to heightened awareness and the possibility of subtle body lovemaking in single or dual cultivation. Celebrate in the weaving of inner and outer realities, surrendering, melting into higher states of being. All human activities, including sexuality can be used and transformed as tools en route to liberation. By cultivating love, sex is transformed into a higher, more healing and ecstatic experience.

Conscious breathing is an effective way to control the energy from wildly going over the edge. Breathing with the whole body helps to circulate and exchange sexual energy. Full breathing is like a flywheel, which get s the energy moving. It increases your capacity to be more sensual, embodied and present.

Articulate control of the PC muscle will catch the energy away from triggering the muscle spasm of ejaculation or genital orgasm and lift it into whole body orgasmic pulsations. The Pubococcygeal (PC) muscle, used in Kegels exercises, strengthens the pelvic floor, the supportive floor for the organs and the body. The organs and glands are massaged through movements of their corresponding reflex zones.

Begin by practicing single cultivation so you know how to ride your “horsepower”. When you are warm by yourself, it does not take much to come to a boil and steam. Nurturing self-love, one grows an abundance of loving energy to share with one’s partner. Mastering some skills by oneself, prepares one to spontaneously communicate sexually with one’s partner. The body becomes both satisfied and disciplined. Inner contentment and wholeness dissolves neediness in relationships. If you realize that your nature is love, you do not need to grasp for love from outside. Love is not sex but love can be consciously cultivated through sex.

It is very important to cultivate the virtues so we can truly make love, make joy and make peace. Sexual energy amplifies any emotions. To prevent negativity from snowballing, cultivate the Inner Smile to transform imbalanced emotions. When your whole being is smiling with acceptance and loving-kindness this effortlessly raises the sexual energy.

Sexual energy is your best cleanser. You may start to release tension physically, energetically, emotionally and mentally. Yawning is encouraged as it releases tension and stagnation and refreshes you. This life-giving force is your internal resource of rejuvenating power. Regular practice tonifies and builds internal strength. It regulates and balances your hormones and organs. Healthy diet and healthy body will make healthy sex.

Sound resonance amplifies the effect of the exercises. Sound shapes made with the mouth reflect into the corresponding shapes made by the pelvis. The ring or sphincter muscles move together, “as above, so below”. When the mouth puckers, the anal sphincter muscles will also contract. Try making the sound “MM” like you are kissing or tasting something delicious and your will notice your PC muscles pucker! The throat and sexual centres develop in puberty at the same time and are intimately connected. Open your throat and heart and sound with all your passion, “HA!”

These exercises can be very energizing so, if you want to sleep soon after the practice, use Bone Breathing and massage to absorb heat into the body. You can store excess sexual energy in the bones. The Healing Sounds can be also used to cool and calm down the mind.

Healing Love workshops may include a variety of ways to cultivate your sexual energy. The sitting practices include massage, meditation and breathing techniques to heighten your sensitivity and skill with sexual energy. The floor-work exercises mobilize the sexual energy through whole body movement. The standing workout energizes, strengthens and challenges your whole system. You can augment some of the practices by using weights. The partner practice enhances harmonious exchange of energy.

It is not how much sex you have, but how “sexy” or alive you feel. This aliveness attracts positive people and life situations towards you. Growing the virtues attracts our higher and lower self to marry together. The attractive glow uplifts others. As the passageways open up, we can live together with more zest for life! We hope that your energy cultivation will continue to grow. Enjoy these creative practices!

by Minke de Vos